Unconditional Love- Humanity’s Only Hope For Survival
We live in a society where we no longer see the value in another human being. Unconditional love is a thing of the past. A distant memory. Perhaps even a fairy tale….
Yet, it is the ONE thing that will save this planet we all occupy. The ONLY hope for humanity’s survival.
Look around you. Look at who we’ve become as a whole. Do you even recognize yourself?
Wars are happening all around the globe. Human beings taking one another’s lives without any regard. Self-entitled individuals everywhere. No one offers a hand anymore to those truly in need. Everyone pretends like ‘it’s not my problem.’
We turn on the TV and we hear stories of children who could no longer cope. They’ve taken their own life in a desperate attempt for freedom from the pain. Another mother screams out in agony. The world around her falls back into place, going about their own lives as if that life lost was ‘not my problem’.
But it IS our problem. As a whole. As a collective.
Every day around the world lives are lost to natural disasters. Our energetic grid is evolving and taking us with it. Gaia is fighting back. And she’s giving us one chance to wake up from our slumber and return to our natural state of unconditional love. To shift the collective consciousness back to its natural essence. This will be your only warning.
What Is Unconditional Love?
Unconditional love in a society with so many conditions is a foreign concept.
It’s loving without conditions. It transcends all behavior and is in no way reliant upon any form of reciprocation. It’s completely selfless.
With selflessness comes the ultimate desire to see the other person flourish and find contentment. It’s based on freedom and compassion. It’s truly caring about the other person’s feelings and well-being and not loving just to serve yourself.
It means that in every situation that involves another human being, you’re thinking about how they might feel, what will happen to them, how your actions and/or choices will affect them, whether your choices are the best thing for them or not, and what you can do to help.
Unconditional love means being sensitive to the space between ourselves and others- being respectful, attentive, and attuned to each other’s feelings and deep needs.
It means seeing the other person as a human being. Accepting flaws and all. Embracing their uniqueness. Accepting their darkness. Compassionately understanding that even if they have committed an act as reprehensible as murder, that they are still a human being worthy of love and forgiveness. Their behaviors are a result of the way they see reality. We are all still ONE- we are simply at different levels of consciousness along the same journey.
But unconditional love is hard.
Why Unconditional Love Is Hard
Unconditional love is hard because we have been raised to put conditions on it. It’s hard because we’re usually thinking about ourselves more than anything or anyone else.
It’s hard because we’ve become a society that looks for differences instead of similarities.
It’s hard because everyone has been trained to have an exit plan in place. The minute someone doesn’t live up to your expectation of them- you exit the relationship.
Conditional love is an attachment to, and feeling for someone that depends on them behaving a certain way. The person loving does so because they get something in return. The other person must meet their unrealistic expectations.
“I will love you if….” or “I will love you when….”
The love relies on the other person NOT acting in a way that the giver finds unacceptable or intolerable.
For example, if your partner were to tell you today that they have been unfaithful and slept with someone else, would you still love them?
In almost every case the answer is no. The ‘love’ is taken away and used as a weapon to hurt the other person.
But if we look too fervently and exclusively to one person to fill all of our needs (for acceptance, belonging, meaning), we may be expecting something that one person can’t provide.
Unconditional Love First Requires Self-Love
In order to love someone unconditionally, you must start by loving yourself the same way. You must learn to accept all of who you are without seeking to change. This doesn’t mean that change won’t happen, it’s a natural part of growth, but that change will be natural, unforced, and unlooked for.
Only when you stop chasing changes in yourself can you begin to love others without their needing to change. It’s then that love can be considered unconditional.
It requires believing in the good within another person.
When love is given without condition, it’s a sign that you’re able to see the very worst in someone and you still believe that they are worthy of your compassion. It’s that part of you that forgives the seemingly unforgivable when no one else is able to.
It does not judge or give up on those that society deems as immoral or evil. It’s the conviction to see beyond a person’s outward flaws to focus, instead, on their inner being or soul.
Loving doesn’t always mean supplying what another person wants, being tirelessly accepting, and having no needs of our own. It doesn’t mean accepting another person’s bad behavior. We still have to honor ourselves enough to have limits and set boundaries, being able to respond with your own ‘yes’ or ‘no’.
It means seeing through it all to the soul of the other person and loving them for that soul essence.
“The greatest gift you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.“
- Love Even When They Show Their Flaws: You have to love another human being even when they show their flaws. No one is perfect and as a human being, they will often disappoint as they cannot live up to YOUR expectations for them. True, unconditional love does not run away when things get tough. Forgiveness is limitless.
- Offer Them Unlimited Freedom and Support: As you are free to be your own individual self, so do they have the same right to freedom. The freedom to shine their light in the way they see fit. And if you and the other person support one another in every endeavor, and are each other’s cheerleaders, always encouraging one another to follow dreams, even if that means temporary inconveniences, then that’s a good sign that the relationship is one of unconditional love.
- Work Tirelessly To Understand Their Perspective: Work to understand how someone else feels and sees things. We all see reality differently. We all have different perspectives. To love unconditionally, you must understand the other person deeply- how they feel, what they’re going through, their past and how it affects their current behavior, etc. And you must seek to offer your support whenever you see possible.